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How to become a better person

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You’ve probably heard it a million times, but keeping a gratitude journal of what you’re thankful for can have a big effect on your mindset. Research has shown that incorporating gratitude into your daily life can help ward off stress, improve sleep, and cultivate more positive social relationships.

Anna Hennings, MA, a mental performance coach in sport psychology, recommends using the acronym GIFT to help you identify what you’re grateful for.

GIFT TECHNIQUE

When thinking about things you’re grateful for, look for instances of:

    </svg>");">Growth: personal growth, like learning a new skillInspiration: moments or things that inspired youFriends/family: people who enrich your lifeTranquility: the small, in-between moments, such as enjoying a cup of coffee or a good bookSurprise: the unexpected or a nice favor

When listing things you’re grateful for, notes Hennings, make sure to also note why that thing makes you grateful.

Whether you nod or smile to strangers passing by or say “good morning” to everyone who enters the office, make an effort to acknowledge those around you when you see them, says psychologist Madeleine Mason Roantree.

In doing so, you’ll notice might find yourself feeling more present and connected to those around you, even if you don’t have a close relationship with them.

Unplugging for even a small amount of time can be beneficial to your well-being. The next time you find yourself with nothing to do, step away from your phone for a few hours.

Instead, try going for a walk and connecting with your thoughts.

Step away from your phone either for a few hours or even take the entire day off of devices. Instead, try getting outside and connecting with nature, or meeting up with friends IRL. Remember: Even a short break from your phone can help you unwind and focus on what brings you joy.

It’s easy to get caught up in being overly harsh and critical of your perceived failings. This negative, unproductive self-talk can lower our overall motivation, explains Hennings.

If you’re constantly telling yourself you aren’t a good person, for example, it’s hard to find motivation to take steps toward self-improvement.

Practice positive self-talk by stating a fact and following up with some optimism.

FACTS + OPTIMISM = POSITIVITY

The next time you find yourself feeling incompetent or overwhelmed, try telling yourself:

“I know this change is going to be challenging, but I’ve put a lot of meaningful thought into it and have considered all the options open to me [fact], so I feel confident I am doing the best I can in this moment [optimism].”

The hard part is catching yourself in the act of negative thinking and intentionally deciding to think differently. But with a bit of practice, this will get easier.

Being kind to others can help give you a sense of purpose and make you feel less isolated.

Try doing something nice for someone at random:

    </svg>");">Pay a compliment to a stranger.Buy lunch for your colleague.Send a card to a friend.Make a donation to someone in need.

“You’ll notice your mood lift a little when you do good for the sheer joy of it,” says Roantree. StudiesTrusted Source show that simply counting acts of kindness for one week can boost happiness and gratitude.

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